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tom77572 32F
54 posts
3/9/2020 6:18 am
Abusive people on this site, Part 3 (Why do people act this way)


Hello, I am sitting here thinking about this site and how people act on this site if you try to chat with them. Now I realize that I may not be what everyone or what even a majority on here desire. But I do not understand why so many negative reactions to a request to chat. In my local area (Houston) I do not believe that I have ever chatted with another female. Males yes but that is not an issue presently. I will get chat requests to role play or inquires as to what I am looking for from outside the country or on the other side of the country, in other words from an improbable distance to ever meet, (more voyeurs). So those requests to chat are taken with no expectation of ever meeting.
Then there are the ones who are always viewing your profile. I mean almost daily. And if you see them online and ask if they would like to chat or have any questions for you, they just ignore you and do not respond. But yet they still keep on viewing the profile (maybe the pictures turn them on?). If you have no desire to chat with the person then why are you viewing their profile amost daily? That is a question that I am probably overthinking. But I will probably continue to overthink it.
I realize that all three (3) of my posts deal with what I precieve as negatives on this site. I will write about some of the positive aspects in future posts. These are things that annoy me about this site and I wanted to give voice to them.
I hope that you all have an enjoyable day....

Kisses
Taylor

DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
3/9/2020 8:24 am

Regarding the repetitive viewing. The account holders of those accounts, quite possibly are not actually viewing your profile. First off, you may get email generated by alt called "icebreakers" Those same accounts my be indicated by alt as them having viewed you too.. Secondly, and most common is if for instance you are on the main page which show various members on line or new account or ones near by, just moving the curser over the icon photo will generate the notice you were viewed. Lastly, i have noticed that when I want to go to one of the functions in the alt tool bar at the top of the pages, at least on my account, while the system waits to move to the linked page, the curser will go to the profile icon for the first person shown in the who is on line or who is new listing. On my main page, it is usually the same profiles listed day after day. So that may be a reason why it show you have been repeatedly viewed by the same person.

Of course, there probably are a bunch of people constantly viewing your profile. Just ignore all of the above situtations.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


StrangerInEgypt 52M
50 posts
3/9/2020 8:52 am

    Quoting DancingDom:
    Regarding the repetitive viewing. The account holders of those accounts, quite possibly are not actually viewing your profile. First off, you may get email generated by alt called "icebreakers" Those same accounts my be indicated by alt as them having viewed you too.. Secondly, and most common is if for instance you are on the main page which show various members on line or new account or ones near by, just moving the curser over the icon photo will generate the notice you were viewed. Lastly, i have noticed that when I want to go to one of the functions in the alt tool bar at the top of the pages, at least on my account, while the system waits to move to the linked page, the curser will go to the profile icon for the first person shown in the who is on line or who is new listing. On my main page, it is usually the same profiles listed day after day. So that may be a reason why it show you have been repeatedly viewed by the same person.

    Of course, there probably are a bunch of people constantly viewing your profile. Just ignore all of the above situtations.
does the following incidence belong to the generated icebreakers thing?

https://alt.com/intgroups/gi41183/qi660628/acview_thread_message.html?#bdsm?{}

I received a flirt and a message from a gold member ( username kitty4daddy37) and i replied to her with my contact then i was surprised to get a reply from her saying "what are you talking about"!!!!
I searched for her online and found that she is all over the net but with different location in every profile and read members comments on her profile on alt (screenshots attached).
can someone explain this? is this scam or does this woman suffer from sleepwalking??!! coz i cant imagine alt.com auto-generates flirts and messages without her knowing anything about it!!.


tom77572 32F

3/9/2020 8:55 am

Thank you very much for theinformation. It sounds as logical if not more so then anything that I have considered so far.
Have an enjoyable day....

Kisses
Taylor


DublinKinc 47M

3/9/2020 9:09 am

I think part of the issue is that the site is falling apart as well. I've had friend requests from people, who then send daily flirts - and if I drop them a message theres no reply. I don't think half the message go through.

Was chatting to a woman yesterday and she just stopped responding. Eventually I got a message asking if I was still there - neither of our messages were reaching other and only a new message worked.

That said - there are so many scammers on here its no funny. They almost always want you to sign up on an alternative site so they can get a referral fee.


StrangerInEgypt 52M
50 posts
3/9/2020 9:30 am

    Quoting  :

I agree, they are putting more restrictions and real honest poeple joining are far much less than 10 years ago.


tom77572 32F

3/9/2020 9:34 am

Hello, that is very true. In the time that I have used this site the deteriation of it has been rapid and pronounced, throw the scammers into the mix and it is a wonder that it works at all.
Have an enjoyable day....

Kusses
Taylor


tom77572 32F

3/9/2020 9:34 am

Hello, that is very true. In the time that I have used this site the deteriation of it has been rapid and pronounced, throw the scammers into the mix and it is a wonder that it works at all.
Have an enjoyable day....

Kisses
Taylor


pzkw 63M  
1208 posts
3/9/2020 9:40 am

I agree with most everyone's comments...most of the people who show up on the home page, in my opinion, are just scammers. If you see someone who lives near you, if you manage to strike up a conversation, it turns out that person lives nowhere close to you...they're just trying to gin up some revenue for themselves or their employer. It's quite frustrating. What's worse, are people you'd like to engage with, but aside from tossing a flirt their way, there's not much you can do.

I think, when my subscription ends in a couple of months, I won't be renewing it. Seems like a lot of people have better luck on Fetlife.


tom77572 replies on 3/9/2020 12:44 pm:
Hello, very accurate and true from what I have experienced, probably 95% are phonies or fake profiles. I will have to speak with Richard about checking fetlife out.
Thank you go e.g. your response and have an enjoyable day....

Kisses
Taylor

tom77572 32F

3/9/2020 1:47 pm

Hello

Thank you very much.....

Kisses
Taylor


jadaikkesant2 54M
30 posts
3/9/2020 2:03 pm

I also think it is many people (mostly men) that is not going to meet anyone because they are in a relationship. They just browse the profiles and get horny by the content.
Also to know that this is a real person and not a model (professional) makes many horny.

It is very strange that alt is not investing more into getting the site work better. The key is the number of members.

Regards
Tor


tom77572 32F

3/9/2020 2:59 pm

Hello, t bgg ank you for your response it ix more i formation that I had nog considered.
Have an enjoyable day....

Kisses
Taylor


daddy2fuckuup2 64M

3/9/2020 3:35 pm

Simply passing the cursor over your pic or link is enough to count as a hit so you can often get many apparent "views" from locals when you appear on their member page for instance. I think it's a "feature" alt uses to make the place look busier, like keeping you marked as online or on chat for long after you're gone.


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
3/10/2020 9:38 am

Scammer. Many scammers have Gold status. Many of us suspect that the site is in cohorts with the scammers.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


tom77572 32F

3/10/2020 10:33 am

Hello, that makes a lot of sense as well as some of the other information that I have received here, thank you.
I hope that you have an enjoyable day....

Kisses
Taylor


ThexCosmicxFurry 26F

3/12/2020 6:47 am

Wow im exceptionally new to the site as fetlife has sold themselves as well as here it seems. I promoted the wrong that i saw on fetlife and would question admin and eventually i just ended up with my profile deleted. POOF ! In an instant, 1000+ followers gone.

Im devastated but im hopeful to rebrand myself better here, and learn more if not a better and more effective way to keep people in the lifestyle safe. I see a lot of you complaining about the scammer bit here and its not much better on fetlife if im honest.

I hope to keep tabs on this discussion and learn more as i delve more and more into a 24/7 aspect rather than just for the fetish.


tom77572 32F

3/13/2020 8:26 pm

Hello, I was considering leaving here and hoing over to Fetlife. Your post to be honest convinced me that was not a good plan. It would seem that on any adult site you will have to deal with scammers, phonies and voyeurs. Your desire to want to work with people within the lifestyle and help keep them safe is both admirable and a very good step to take. It is a shame more people do not view this as you do.
I wish you all the goodwill and luck possible as you will need both.
Have an enjoyable evening

Kisses
Taylor


ARomanticSadist 54M
1298 posts
3/23/2020 7:49 pm

I hope you will take this as the lighthearted and somewhat complimentary.

Every time I see your thumbnail I want to ask; "Where did you get a gummy dildo and what flavor is it?" And I always get a lil smile on my face when I see it.


tom77572 32F

3/23/2020 8:50 pm

Hello

Thank you and yes I do take it as complimentary and lighthearted. As to what flavor, sorry to disappoint you but none. I reserve my anger or indifference for those who deserve it. And this certainly is not a case of that.
Have an enjoyable evening....

Kisses
Taylor


cjay132 43F
66 posts
4/2/2020 1:19 am

It is what it is now hon and it won't be around much longer



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