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rondiri 64M
11039 posts
8/12/2022 8:05 pm

Some would say you live a "traditional" 1950s American relationship. Others would say you live a BDSM lifestyle without the kinks. It just depends on viewpoint.
The most important thing is what YOU and your husband think of the relationship. Everyone else's opinions have no bearing, the same as any BDSM relationship or vanilla relationship, or gay relationship. It's what YOU make of it, not what others make of it.


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
8/12/2022 9:32 pm

DS does not require any sort of BD or SM. But most often does to one degree or another. Some confuse domineering with domination. And, regardless, some may see a person as dominant or not so dominant in their eyes. Same for submissives. And each of us is both dominant and submissive in various aspects of our live, different situations, different ages, different home situations and of course careers have up be in one position or another at times.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


brandygirasol 54T
9365 posts
8/12/2022 10:27 pm

Very enlightening my sexy soul sister♥️ ....You always end up beng with Alpha type Dominant Men that it does seem to be in your blood...💋💋💋


ExNameForUse 53F
5608 posts
8/13/2022 12:21 am

Lovely personal insight, no_unicorn, offering a different perspective about important topics. You have put in words something I often tried to define with regards to my own needs and the dynamic I desire to have. Thank you. I have enjoyed reading.


jenny14 75T  
90121 posts
8/13/2022 1:15 am

n_u

I don't think definitions are important! It is what we want things to be and how we live them!

Thank you for sharing your experience and raising a very interesting topic!

I agree that a good dom/me does not need to traise their voice - their presence and tone is all that is needed!


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


brandygirasol 54T
9365 posts
8/13/2022 5:49 am

Justine you have me cracking up every time I think how many asswhippings you received for giggling whenever you called your DOM "the Baron" 🤪🤪🤪


likesmatures 55M
4794 posts
8/13/2022 7:17 am

So true...i believe there are people into the lifestyle for a variety of reasons.

But i also think there are people into them naturally..they are born Dominant and submissive.

I for example dont do well with authority figures..my submission kicks in..

And im not talking about a Dominatrix.

I mean it kicks in around anyone in a position of authority...like teachers librarians,cops,nurses..yeah nurses,..
So yeah that makes for some interesting physicals.

And yes i do pick up Dominant vibes in certain people.


drmgirl622 68F  
25884 posts
8/13/2022 8:30 am

"Well before I had ever heard of BDSM, I would find myself being inexplicably drawn to powerful men".......lets change the noun to women. I've always been so pulled in by women with a power that has to be felt. I love women in authority and feel that need to assist them in all ways possible.

One time, during a big business meeting, in walked this woman that I'd heard over many conference calls but never met. Thea glided into the room and immediately the hush was palpable. I just couldn't help staring at this woman that seemed to reach into my soul. Tall, black hair done so perfectly with black boots and a pencil skirt. I think there were only two women besides myself in the room and she walked, or should I say glided, across the room and said "you must be D". The men in the room almost bowed down to her. All I could get out was Yes Ma'am. In my mind that is what BDSM is to me.


Artschoolgrad 46M
8434 posts
8/13/2022 11:17 am

beautiful and true i think


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
8/13/2022 3:15 pm

Great writing.
every one give her, or his completion to what bdsm stands for, in their relation,
I do believe there are couples who live a 'traditional' kind of 'marriage/relationship,
Without anything SM in it.
He is in charge, no matter what, is more the idea.

It is -just- the man is head of the household and he makes the big decisions. or delegate maybe some to his spouse....?

No i dont think SM or BD-SM is now commonplace, although you never will know what people will do behind closed doors...?

There is just some totall other energy level / flow going on, in such dynamics.
i feel that energy, inmediately..


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
8/14/2022 11:08 pm

I can completely relate to what you're saying, J. When I am confronted by a confident dominant stranger, I do feel something. I am painfully submissive around a truly dominant man. It's like my body just knows.
Great piece, as always.
x0x0,
~M

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”



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