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rondiri 64M
7220 posts
11/26/2022 7:47 pm

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12/1/2022 10:48 am

High Protocol

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rondiri 64M
11040 posts
11/26/2022 7:48 pm

I was asked by a friend to explain High Protocol
Almost every BDSM relationship has some sort of protocols and rules. The most common is the use of titles and pet names. Every dynamic has different sets of rules for the Dominant and submissive to adhere to.
High Protocol simply means that the dynamic has a high number of protocols and rules and/or they are very specific, very formal and strictly enforced.
Some examples of the more formal and specific protocols would be:
*The submissive standing in a prescribed position and asking permission to enter a room occupied by the Dominant. (also leaving)
*The submissive kneeling beside the bed and asking permission to get in the Dominant’s bed.
*The submissive asking permission to speak.
*The submissive asking permission to sit on furniture.
*Stipulated locations for the submissive to eat, sleep, or sit near the Dominant.
*Formal behavior for the submissive to maintain during dinner parties or other formal BDSM gatherings or events
In High protocol dynamics, the protocols are enforced to the point if the submissive isn’t in the proper position when asking to enter a room, they are disciplined, never mind if they actually forget to ask permission.
High protocol is not for everyone. It can be difficult to remember all the different protocols and rules. For others it can be just annoying to have so many protocols and rules. Others like a more informal set of protocols.
High Protocols are more an Old Guard standard due to the strictness and formality, but can be incorporated into any dynamic that both parties agree to.
© 11/26/22 Ronald Dirienzo


meltwill2 72M  
3733 posts
11/26/2022 8:17 pm

I have tried and used it years ago. Rather stay on the semi formal side now.


rondiri replies on 11/27/2022 9:30 am:
That's the good thing about BDSM dynamics now compared to then, everyone can be different, from a little to drastically.

highvaluedaddom 58M

11/26/2022 8:17 pm

protocols have largely went away as mimicking the deterioration of society as a whiole


rondiri replies on 11/27/2022 9:31 am:
the new members to the community, from the internet onset to the 50 Shades onslaught, didn't take the time to learn.

brandygirasol 54T
9369 posts
11/26/2022 9:10 pm

High Protocols Strictly Enforced has always been my experience with DOMs❤️


rondiri replies on 11/27/2022 9:31 am:

rydermantel 68M
23773 posts
11/26/2022 9:54 pm

    Quoting meltwill2:
    I have tried and used it years ago. Rather stay on the semi formal side now.
I have no use for protocols. They are outdated and childish. They feel more like playtime than reality.


rondiri replies on 11/27/2022 9:32 am:
are you called by a title? that's a protocol. Any rule you use, is a protocol.

brandygirasol 54T
9369 posts
11/26/2022 10:28 pm

OK Ryder let's see how that works... I have a DOM who has no protocols no rules I just do whatever I please like he's just my boyfriend.... So how is that a DOM or BDSM????? Maybe Sir Ron could explain how you can be a so called DOM without being Dominant.... NOT👅


rondiri replies on 11/27/2022 9:32 am:

brandygirasol 54T
9369 posts
11/26/2022 10:36 pm

    Quoting rydermantel:
    I have no use for protocols. They are outdated and childish. They feel more like playtime than reality.
Ha👅


rondiri replies on 11/27/2022 9:33 am:
agreed... will wonders never cease.

meltwill2 72M  
3733 posts
11/26/2022 11:00 pm

    Quoting rydermantel:
    I have no use for protocols. They are outdated and childish. They feel more like playtime than reality.
I find that as we got older it became harder for a lot of the female subs to get on their knees due to ongoing knee problems and other health problems. So allowances had to be made. I tell no one that I am a Dom.....the ones I am with sense and know it very readily.


rydermantel 68M
23773 posts
11/26/2022 11:08 pm

    Quoting brandygirasol:
    OK Ryder let's see how that works... I have a DOM who has no protocols no rules I just do whatever I please like he's just my boyfriend.... So how is that a DOM or BDSM????? Maybe Sir Ron could explain how you can be a so called DOM without being Dominant.... NOT👅
protocol is "a code prescribing strict adherence to correct etiquette and precedence." Sounds a bit extreme.


rondiri replies on 11/27/2022 9:33 am:
Protocol is always the rules the submissives follows.

rydermantel 68M
23773 posts
11/26/2022 11:12 pm

    Quoting meltwill2:
    I find that as we got older it became harder for a lot of the female subs to get on their knees due to ongoing knee problems and other health problems. So allowances had to be made. I tell no one that I am a Dom.....the ones I am with sense and know it very readily.
I have never used the term "Dom" and I just consider myself a Dominant male.


ExNameForUse 53F
5608 posts
11/27/2022 1:02 am

I found myself lucky that my Scribe never insisted on any sort of high protocol or claimed he is a "Dom".
It is what he is, so no need to insist on it or to ask for verification through some honorific protocolary gestures.
We know very well who is in charge, and what is allowed, or not, and I find it beautiful this way.


rondiri replies on 11/27/2022 9:35 am:
The only time I say I'm a Dominant is when asked point-blank or when Courtney and I are joking around. Otherwise, like scribe, it's just who and how I am.

drmgirl622 68F  
25884 posts
11/27/2022 7:20 am

There are very few protocols with Mistress but those that are in place are strictly enforced.


rondiri replies on 11/28/2022 10:13 am:

manni_pr 51T
2589 posts
11/28/2022 6:57 am

My Dom esta is he's the protocols based on our agreements and limits. We keep it rather simple but how I address him is a basic one and I always ask him to focus on safety. For the rest, it's mostly up to him


rondiri replies on 11/28/2022 10:14 am:

Velvet_263 61F
322 posts
11/29/2022 11:26 pm

I prefer some rules to follow. It makes things easier. No room for doubt. If I am unsure, I ask for clarification. It does not seem childish to me. It seems respectful.


rondiri replies on 12/1/2022 10:48 am:


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